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    September 21

    Success recipes most people know, but too few follow

    If you want to look back on a life that fills you with joy, conventional rules for success are not the place to start

    1. Don
    't chase money, power, or status.
    If they come to you, that
    's fine. But most conventional ideas about success go wrong because they focus on outcomes instead of on the processes of living. Outcomes come around from time to time, but life itself—the process of living, acting, thinking, and being—happens all the time. No outcome is going to make a lousy, miserable process feel worthwhile.

    If you hate what you do, no amount of power or money will make up for that. If your life is constantly stressful, boring, unhappy, or frustrating, how can achieving some high status once in a while make up for all the miserable days and weeks you spent getting there? It
    's tempting to feel that the end will more than make up for the means; that you'll forget the misery in the blaze of achievement. And you will—for a few moments. Then you'll be back on the treadmill, with only the distant hope of some fresh achievement or monetary gain to console you. That's like being a laboratory rat conditioned to unnatural behavior by occasional pellets of food.

    2. Take whatever time you need to discover what matters to you most
    Success isn
    't simply a matter of money, power, or prestige. You could gain all of those and still feel that you have fallen short of what you wanted; or you could gain none of them and be blissfully happy and fulfilled. What constitutes personal success is mostly in your mind. It has much less to do with finding the best career in other peoples' eyes, creating a killer business, or holding down a fancy job with a big salary than with achieving what really matters to you. Many people find this out too late. They struggle for years to get where other people said they should go, only to find it does little or nothing for them. Sad;y, it's often too late by then to do anything else.

    3. Don
    't base your choices on others' approval. We all want to please those we care about, so it's natural to try to do what they approve. Natural, but rarely a good idea as the basis for life's choices. I don't say that you should deliberately ignore sound advice, or reject a career path simply because other people suggest it. But even the most loving parent or friend can't always see what is going to make your heart sing. Listen to others. Value their input and their support. But go your
    own way. It
    's better to be committed to doing what you truly love than accept something lesser for the sake of being approved by someone else.

    4. Stay authentic. That means always doing what truly matters to you and is part of who you are. The simplest definition of a hypocrite is someone who says one thing and does another: like a person who says that he or she wants to work at something that benefits society, then forgets that at the first sight of a fistful of dollar bills. Somewhere inside of you is a part that recalls what truly matters and will never quite let you forget it. Over the years, that inner voice is only going to get louder.

    5. Go for meaning over money every time. It
    's perfectly possible to do something meaningless to you and earn a great deal of cash while doing so. Some people do, especially in parts of the media world. It just requires a stronger stomach and more cynicism that most people possess, plus a huge tolerance for boredom.

    Is it worth it? If money is truly all that matters to you—and you can make lots of it quickly and get out—it might be. Few areas of work will allow you to do that, aside from criminal ones. Meaningless days corrode most peoples
    ' minds and destroy their happiness. Doing something that means a great deal to you almost always makes you feel energized and alive. It's your choice.

    6. Be endlessly greedy—for learning. You can never learn too much or overfill your mind with new ideas. Nothing is more useful in life than a well-developed, well-stocked mind, especially one that has been broadened and enlarged in the process. It
    's hard to name a single famously successful person who was narrow-minded, bigoted, or stupid. The list of notable successes who are recognized for the power of their minds is long. And you don't have to have had an expensive education to be able to develop a great mind. There have been plenty of near geniuses whose education was almost entirely self-produced.

    7. Make a friend of failure. You are certain to fail sometimes, and the higher your aspirations, the more frequent and significant that failure will be. People who don't strive for anything glorious rarely fail; they take no risks and never aim beyond what is easily attainable. But if you treat failure as an enemy, it's going to lead only to discouragement and even the abandoning of your hopes and dreams. Failure can be a friend, pointing out what isn't right yet and showing you the way to do better. The more proficient you become at accepting the lessons of failure, the quicker you will succeed.

    8. Make sure that every time you make a mistake, it's a new one. Making the same mistake several times shows that you haven't learned what it can teach you. Making new mistakes proves that you're trying something different. The best definition of a loser is someone who makes the same mistakes over and over again, never managing to learn anything in the process. Such a person is doomed.

    9. Choose to spend your time with the right people. I don't mean that in the sense of the rich and the powerful, the movers and shakers of society. Whether they're powerful or not, the best people to spend time with are those from whom you can learn most: the ones whose own lives have brought them joy and endless fulfillment. That means people who do what they love and love what they do. People who have become experts in life, thinking people, people with wide-open minds and wide-open hearts.

    Seek them out wherever you can. Listen to them. Never mind if they are no longer living. Read their books and emulate their largeness of spirit. Learn from them all, but don't simply copy what they did in this world. What they did was right for them, but may not be right for you. What you need to use as models are their ways of thinking and responding to the challenges of the world; the process of their lives, not what it happened to contain.

    10. Drop whatever is inconsistent with these principles. That means all activities that don't move you forward towards what you value most; things that get in the way of learning; pursuits that waste time and dull your senses; and people who hold you back. You may sometimes have to be ruthless. Each of us has only one life. If you waste it, you don't get another chance. Besides, if you have chosen your dreams and aspirations wisely, what you must leave behind by dropping what's inconsistent with those dreams will not be worth worrying about anyway. Those who make bad choices find, too late, that they have abandoned things and people that meant more to them than whatever they gained in exchange. If that happens, you have truly reached one of life's lowest points. 

     
    March 14

    从《魔兽世界》学到的七件事

    在网络里游荡时,发现了这一篇曼吸引人的文章。。。

    好莱坞金牌编剧约翰·奥古斯特

    从《魔兽世界》学到的七件事 

     

    2000年的动画片《冰冻星球》、两部《霹雳娇娃》或者从2003年开始和鬼才导演提姆·波顿合作的《查理和巧克力工厂》、《大鱼》还有《僵尸新娘》。从他编剧的那些电影,就可以看出约翰·奥古斯特是个不折不扣的幻想派

     

    37岁的约翰·奥古斯特被认为是好莱坞年轻一代的天才编剧。不过,最近他在自己的博客上“忏悔”,自己4个月来沉湎于网络游戏的世界。戒掉魔兽之后,他终于可以完成自己的导演处女作《完美假象》(TheNines),一部小成本,已经在圣丹斯电影节上放映了。
      他坦承,“看过我的影片《完美假象》(TheNines)的人,可以推断出来,在过去的日子里,我确实深受《魔兽世界》的困扰。大约持续了4个月的时间,那段日子里,只要我醒着,不是在玩‘魔兽’,就是在想着如何玩‘魔兽’。做编剧,最奢侈也是最危险的一点,就是有大量的自由时间可以支配,‘魔兽’几乎占去我全部的时间。”
      约翰·奥古斯特戒掉“魔兽”的方式很决绝。“适度原则在《魔兽世界》面前无法奏效。我必须彻底戒掉,删掉账号,清除硬盘。现在,我获得了新生,有了孩子,写了几个本子,也自己拍了一部电影。”
      不过,
      约翰·奥古斯特在回首沉迷于《魔兽世界》的日子时,并非只有对虚度光阴的懊恼和忏悔,他觉得在游戏的虚拟世界里同样能够建立对现实世界的感悟。
      “对放弃魔兽我没有任何的遗憾,然而,回首过去,我确实从我的艾泽拉斯大陆时代获得了一些有价值的东西,解开了一些曾经百思不得其解的难题,所以,我想和大家分享一切。”
      从约翰·奥古斯特的反思中可以印证当下网络游戏带给社会的两难命题,一方面它创造了一个超越现实的光怪世界,让人们有机会实现额外的生命体验,一方面却让人们难以回到现实中来。
      为了和广大的魔兽玩家们分享这位好莱坞金牌编剧的游戏心得,特意摘编如下,希望能够给大家提供一种在游戏中体味现实人生的励志视角。
      1.先干掉受伤的怪物
      在面对数倍于你的敌人时,人通常会去追赶打得你最狠的那家伙。这其实是个错误。正确的做法应该是干掉背包负伤,然后逃跑的那个。因为他会在15秒之后回来,很有可能带着一帮坏蛋。只有他死了,你才可以集中精力去对付打你的那家伙。
      现实世界可能没有德鲁伊教团员和查理大帝,可是充满了怪物。在现实生活中,他们可能化身“学期报告”、“日常琐事”、“神秘的汽车难题”,对你虎视眈眈。在任何时间段里,总会有那么一个怪物变得越来越强大,大过其他的任何事情。很明显,你需要去击破它。但是,在做之前,环顾一下其他“负伤的怪物”——做了一半的工作可能只需要再多花几分钟就能完成。如果你现在不对付他们,他们可能会在以后不断地打扰你,以至于最后卷土重来。
      这个“负伤的怪物”理论让我努力去回复当天接到的每一个电话,回复24小时之内收到的每一封e-mail。如果汽车的警示灯亮起,一定要马上去修理。我发现,不管什么时候,只要我在想,“我需要记住……”我知道接下来我就会忘记。其实我需要的不是记住,我需要的是去做,去完成。
      2.“Grinding”是游戏
      的一部分…
      套用《魔兽世界》的一个术语,“Grinding”(非常长时间呆在同一地点与同一类怪物战斗)是一种可以轻而易举杀死一大帮怪物的方法,一个接一个地杀,以此获取战利品和经验值。这个过程没有冒险,没有真正的挑战。不需要动脑子,有些乏味,但通常是升级的最快方法。
      日常生活,同样充满了许多不用动脑子的琐事,但是,两者有一个重要的区别,那就是:“Grinding”有一个终极目的。任务也许乏味,但有一个清晰的目标,就好像你做X的目的是为了获得Y一样。你在打印室里复印稿件,是为了得到一个助理的工作。你把稿子校对7遍,是为了把它交给为制片人工作的朋友。你不得不去做那些琐事,为了可以朝目标迈进。
      3……可是“Grinding”不是游戏的全部
      人们通常会迷惑:我在做这件事情,可是我为什么要做呢?然而,需要记住的是:你不是每个月花15美元,用相同的方式去不断杀掉那些面对袭击不会反击的小鹿小兔。“Grinding”是达成目标的一个方法,然而,游戏的目的远不止这些,说到底它是为了娱乐。所以,一旦升级(或者有足够的鹿皮来制作盔甲),停止“Grinding”,开始新的征程。
      我曾在一家叫做Tri-Star的公司干了一年的活儿,一周里读上10个剧本,给每个剧本写提要,收入不错,每篇提要付给我65美元。可是这样的工作让人很厌烦。要知道大部分的剧本都很糟糕,当然它们也为我提供了借鉴,避免以后写成那样。除钱之外,我找不到任何读它们的理由。但是我还是说服自己,“我在一个公司里打工。”所以我一直在读,一本接一本,忠实地写着大纲和评论。虽然总裁夸赞我作了“充满智慧”的笔记,可是很多人建议我试一下别的机会,所以,我放弃了。
      不再看书了,我在环球唱片得到了一个实习生的工作:整理档案,复印文件。这些都不费脑子,所以下班之后依然精力旺盛。我完成了两个剧本。
      以上两个工作都是纯粹的“干活”。理论上来说,写提要应该是个好工作,因为它离编剧很近。老实说,前一两个月我确实学到了一些有价值的东西。不过第二份工作更合适我,因为他没有让我迷失自己真正的理想。
      4.把不用的东西留给新手
      除了手中的武器和身上的盔甲,开始这场游戏时,你几乎一无所有。渐渐的,积攒到的每一个戒指都让人兴奋不已,盔甲看起来也日渐奢华,但是随着步步升级,一些装备对你来说越来越没用。把他们储存起来然后卖掉,得不偿失。所以,回到新手的领地,找到刚入门的那位,把你不想要的东西都给他。可能会花掉2分钟的时间,但是,会给新手一个极大的先机。(也许还会为你建立一些缘分呢)。
      对我而言,johnaugust.com这个网站,就是回到新手的领地。虽然不能得到经济上的奖励,我还是甘愿送出所能给的一切。当然,我也可以把我的建议写成书,每本卖上15.95美元。可是,我不想那样做。其实,每天我也像新手一样搜索着我感兴趣的话题(Flash编程、DC神话,教孩子游泳)。感谢把这些有用的信息写下来和大家分享的人。作为交换,我把了解的关于编剧的事情也写了下来。如果每个人都能把自己的专长做成网页共享,那这个世界会变得多么美妙。
      5.明白你的目标
      《魔兽世界》让人耳目一新的地方,就是它拥有一个开放式的结局——如果你喜欢,可以花大量的时间去玩德鲁伊变熊的游戏。为了提供一种修炼的感觉,这个游戏派发多种任务,这些任务通常需要很多步骤来完成,包括收集物品、杀死怪兽或者运送物品。虽然游戏的内在系统会回馈你的努力,但大部分的时间,你的努力(找到更好的防护物)得来的只是一种无形的挫败感。而窍门便是识别这些非游戏设定的任务,并把它们分成以下几个特定步骤:
      *浏览拍卖物以比较价格;
      *选择最想要的护盾;
      *卖掉不需要的亚麻来获取需要的现金;
      *出价。
      在以上任何一种情况中,你都可能遇到10个虚假的任务。除非你完全掌控并识别他们,否则你可能会落到诅咒没用的护盾,不停地到处乱跑的地步。
      倡导“时间管理”的人们也许会把魔兽世界的任务称做“项目”,设定的每一个目标都是瞄准“下一个行动”。这虽然很滑稽,可是要知道,生活中大部分的工作都是由为大目标服务的小行动组成。你不是在写剧本,仅仅是在写一幕幕的戏。无论“项目”是什么,如果你不开始就永远无法完成,如果不安排步骤就永远无法开始。
      6.存储成本很贵
      也许设计者认为那些邋遢的十几岁小男孩才是《魔兽世界》的主要玩家,所以游戏中不允许把任何东西丢在地上。如果不捡起掉下的战锤,它就会永远消失,所以玩家很清楚储藏的重要性:腰带、背包、包裹、胸甲,全都要随身携带。然而不幸的是,基本上永远不会有足够的空间来装这些东西。储存的越多,花费越大。(很明显,就是这么设计的。开发者想要存储的越少越好。)所以一定要牢记携带的成本。如果你不再用那把弓,就把它舍弃,换成硬币——因为硬币是不占包裹空间的。
      与《魔兽世界》或者上个世纪90年代的硬盘不同,现在数字存储设备相当便宜了。我记得以前经常要小心地清理硬盘,为了安装最新版本的桌面排版程序QuarkXPress,尽量把不需要的都删掉。现在,我的c区里还有80G的可用空间,这是我一年来第一次检查。
      去年,我清理了车库。没有像以往那样把不用的都打包卖掉,而是用了更有效的方法,把没用的东西拍成照片,做成一个网页,把链接发给朋友。不管谁想要哪个,都可以用电子邮件和我们联系,他们得到了免费的桌子,而我们得到了宽敞的车库。
      7.过度思考
      会失去乐趣
      记住,这个游戏是为了获得乐趣。没错,你可以花费数小时在论坛中,找到你要的那棵“天赋树”,或者你可以发挥聪明才智,开辟新的领地,杀死更大的妖怪。然而,过多的计划只会让游戏更像一份工作,从而失去乐趣。
      我经常会问自己,剧本的大概框架是怎么样的,是否有必要坐下来写。其实,大可不必这样。就好像一个地图可以带你到要去的地方,但是如果你完全按照它的话,可能会错过沿途中许多的神奇景观。
      在一个更大的层面上,如果你回顾自己生命中的任何一个阶段,你不会记得你当时的计划是什么。只会记得你做了什么,会记得那些冒险,那些困难,那些不期而遇的曲折小径,正是这些让生活变得迷人起来。所以,不要计划,让那些激动人心的生活就这样到来吧。

    February 17

    What comes around, goes around...

    Story...worth a thought....


    What comes around, goes around...


    He almost didn't see the old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

    Even with the smile on his face, she was worried.  No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so... was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry.

    He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you.

    He said, "I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you wait in the car where it's warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson."

    Well! , all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.

    As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid.

    Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

    He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, "And think of me."

    He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

    A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger.

    Then she remembered Bryan.

    After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be.

    Then she noticed something written on the napkin. There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: "You don't owe me anything.
    I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: "Do not let this chain of love end with you."

    Under the napkin were four more $100 bills. Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard.

    She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, "Everything's going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson."

    There is an old saying "What goes around comes around." Today, I sent you this story, and I'm asking you to pass it on. Let this light shine!!!

    Don't delete it. Please pass this on to a friend.

    Good friends are like stars. You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.

     

    December 20

    Strongest Dad In The World

    Thanks for Danny who share this great video and story to me. I just wanna it to all of my friends. 

    希望這個故事, 的確可激勵到他人...

    一段令人震撼的片子,這部影片叫"Team Hoyt"
    是在講一對父子的故事
    爸爸叫做Dick Hoyt
    兒子叫做Rick Hoyt
    這對父子是長跑健將
    在過去二十五年間
    他們一共跑了3770mile
    其中包括78次半馬拉松賽,64次的馬拉松賽,24次著名的波士頓馬拉松賽,
    20 次Duathlons賽,7 次18.6 Milers賽,34 次10 Milers賽 ,143 次5 Milers賽,
    620Milers 賽,27次 Falmouth 7.1 milers賽,15次4 Milers賽,2次11公里賽,
    8 次15公里賽,204 次10公里賽,4 次8公里賽,92 次5公里賽,206 次奧運標準
    的三項鐵人賽,6次被公認不是平常人可以承受既Ironman distances的終極三項鐵人賽……

    但是你知道嗎?
    兒子Rick是不能說話也不能走路的!!

    Rick在出生時因臍帶繞頸導致腦部缺氧受損,醫生告訴Dick,孩子是植物人,沒有
    任何希望了,因此他只能在輪椅上渡過他的一生。

    Dick引述在Rick九個月大時,醫生對他和他妻子祖迪(Judy)說︰「他從此會像植物人一樣,還是把他送到療養院吧。」

    然而,他們兩夫婦對此並不認同。他們發覺當他們在屋內活動時,Rick的眼睛會緊
    盯著他們。當Rick十一歲時,他們把他送到特夫斯大學(Tufts University)的工程
    系,詢問是否有令孩子與人溝通的辦法,可惜Dick得到的回覆是︰「不可能,他根本
    沒有任何腦部活動。」

    Dick反駁說︰「跟他說個笑話吧。」他們便說了個笑話,Rick果然笑了,證明了他
    的腦內確有不少活動。結果,他們為Rick加裝了一部能用頭的則面控制滑鼠標的電
    腦, Rick終於能和外界溝通了!

    在Rick十五歲時,Rick的一位中學的同學因意外而癱瘓了,學校為那位學生舉行跑
    步籌款,Rick便透過電腦打出︰「爸,我也想參加。」
    Dick之前並非跑步運動員,也沒有跑過馬拉松賽但因著兒子的要求就參加了
    於是他就推著Rick跑完了5mile的全程

    在結束之後Rick對父親說:"我今生第一次不覺得殘障了!"
    這句話深深地震撼了爸爸Dick!

    他決心要把那種感覺盡可能帶給兒子,預備好參加1979年的波士頓馬拉松。
    「不接受報名。」便是比賽當局給Dick的話,原因是Hoyt父子既不是單獨跑手,又
    不是輪椅參賽者。結果幾年來,Hoyt父子只在賽事中跟著大隊一起跑,但他們終於
    找到正式參加比賽的方法︰在1983年,他們參加了另一個馬拉松,他們速度之快,
    令他們能入圍參加之後一年的波士頓馬拉松。

    不久後便有人對Dick說︰「何不參加三項鐵人賽?」一個從來未曾學過游泳的人,
    一個自六歲起便從未踏過單車的人,如何能拖著110磅(50公斤)的兒子完成三項全
    能賽?

    但Dick還是勇於一試。屈指一算,他現在已完成了212次三項全能賽,當中包括了
    四次在夏威夷舉行,極費體力的15小時鐵人賽!


    因著父愛,父親去學習游泳,學習踏自行車…
    他願意為Rick做出許多的犧牲和付出,他又曾拖著他的兒子越野滑雪,又曾背著他
    爬山,其中一次更用單車拉著他橫越美國。

    於是從那時候開始他們父子就常以"Team Hoyt"報名參加馬拉松和三項鐵人賽:
    跑步時Dick就推著Rick跑,游泳時Dick就拖著Rick躺著的橡皮艇游


    騎自行車時Dick就騎著特製的自行車將Rick放在自行車前騎乘……
    那麼Dick為何不試試自己一個人參加比賽,看看表現如何?
    「我不會獨個兒參賽。」Dick說。他參加比賽純粹是為了當他們一起跑步、游泳和踏
    單車,看到Rick面上露出甜美笑容時的「奇妙感覺」。

    今年,Dick與Rick分別65和43歲,已完成了他們第24次波士頓馬拉松,在20,000名
    參賽者中排名第5,083。他們的最佳時間?是在1992年的兩小時40分——只落後世界
    紀錄35分鐘;當然,或許你還未留意到,這紀錄是由一個沒有推著輪椅的人所創的。

    兩年前,在一次比賽中,Dick輕微心臟病發。其後醫生發現他的一條大動脈有95%
    栓塞了。其中一名醫生對他若說︰「非你一直保持著這樣好的狀態,你大可能15年前
    已不久於人世。」

    現在,儘管Rick有自己的住宅單位(他享有居家照料服務)並在波士頓工作,而
    Dick從軍隊退役後已在麻薩諸塞州的荷蘭市居住,但他們總有團聚的方法。他們經常
    在全國各地發表演說,而每週末也會參加極耗體力的比賽,當中包括今年的父親節。

    當晚, Rick會請父親吃晚飯,但他最想送給父親的禮物,是他永遠買不到的。
    Rick 答道︰「我最想送給爸爸的,是爸爸坐在椅上,由我推他一次!」

    看這部短片時我深受感動
    在影片中Dick推著Rick通過終點時
    他們父子都受到眾人的鼓掌和歡呼

    但這中間Rick什麼都沒有做…
    他也什麼也都不能做…
    一切都因為他父親的愛而白白領受這些…

     

    Strongest Dad in the World

    [From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

     I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay For their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots. But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

    Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars--all in the same day.

    Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike.  Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

    And what has Rick done for his father? Not much--except save his life.

    This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

    `He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life;'' Dick says doctors told him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. ``Put him in an ins titution.'' 

    But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was anything to help the boy communicate. ``No way,''Dick says he was told.  ``There's nothing going on in his brain.''

     "Tell him a joke,'' Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

    Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to communicate. First words?

    ``Go Bruins!'' And after a high school classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a charity run for him, Rick pecked out, ``Dad, I want to do that.''

    Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described ``porker'' who never ran more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still, he tried.

    ``Then it was me who was handicapped,'' Dick says. ``I was sore for two weeks.''

     That day changed Rick's life. ``Dad,'' he typed, ``when we were running, it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!''

     And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

    ``No way,'' Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway, then they found a way to get into the race officially:  In 1983 they ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston the following year.

    Then somebody said, ``Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?''

    How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

    Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour Iron-mans in Hawaii. It must be a  buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think? 

    Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own?``No way,'' he says. Dick does it purely for ``the awesome feeling'' he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

     This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time'? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992--only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time. 

    ``No question about it,'' Rick t ypes. ``My dad is the Father of the Century.''And Dick got something else out of all this too. 

    Two years ago he had a mild heart attack during a race.  Doctors found that one of his arteries was 95% clogged. ``If you hadn't been in such great shape,'' one doctor told him, ``you probably would've died 15 years ago.''

     So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

     Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland, Mass., always find ways to be together. They give  speeches around  the country and compete in some backbreaking race every  weekend, including this Father's Day.  That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

    ``The thing I'd most like,'' Rick types, ``is that my dad sit in the chair and I push him once.''

    Click the picture below to watch the video,



    播客:生命之光

     

    November 29

    Kiss The Rain - 雨中的印記

    星星满天的夜晚,一个人静静的聆听着这一首歌,回味着自己的人生,感觉就像一部戏。。。自己就是最好的导演。。。
    This song is dedicated to all my friends for your supports & care.
     
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever you need me
    Kiss the rain
    Whenever I'm gone too long.
    If your lips
    Feel lonely and thirsty
    Kiss the rain
    And wait for the dawn.
    Keep in mind
    And the nights
    As empty for me as for you
    If you feel
    You can t wait till morning
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain
    Kiss the rain

    是 一 首 不 是 诗 的 诗
    是 一 幅 不 成 画 的 画
    愁 ?
    尽 情 地 愁 吧
    雨 中 有 凋 落 的 花 香
    笑 !
    尽 情 地 笑 吧
    雨 中 有 生 命 的 欢 歌

    悄 无 声 息 地 坠 下
    站 在 雨 中 的 窗 台 前
    窗 外 小 雨 点 点 滴 滴
    滋 润 着 大 地 泥 泞 着 心 房
    雨 丝
    仿 佛 你 的 眼 泪
    梨 花 带 雨 却 撕 人 心 痛
    此 时 此 刻
    雨 水 冲 刷 我 疲 倦 的 面 孔
    任 凭 思 念 在 心 头 蔓 延
    无 边 雨 天 中
    早 已 分 不 清 楚 泪 与 雨 的 感 觉
     

    Broadband In Home

    Finally, I got broadband service up in my home and wifi enabled. Now my sisters & brother satisfy & happily to surf the net! The bad news also the good news, there will more time for me to spend with internet again! My IM friends, you will see me online more often at night also! .
    October 17

    Don't keep the love until it too late

    Thanks for Lisa to share this song. A meaningful song from Leo Gu
     
    爱得太迟
     
    我过去那死党早晚共对
    各也扎职以后没法畅聚
    而终於相约到但无言共对疏淡如水
    曰夜做见爸爸刚好想呻
    却霎眼看出他多了皱纹
    而他的苍老感是从来未觉太内疚担心
    最心痛是爱得太迟有些心意
    不可等某个曰子
    盲目地发奋忙忙忙其实自私
    梦中也习惯有压力要我得知
    最可怕是爱需要及时只差一秒
    心声都已变历史
    忙极亦放肆见我爱的见双至
    要抱要吻怎黱也好
    偏要推说要等一下次
    我也觉我体质仿似下降
    看了症得到是别要太忙
    而影碟都扫光但从来未看因有事赶
    曰夜做储的钱都应该够
    到圣诞正好讲跟我白头
    谁知她开了口未能挨下去己恨我很久
    错失太易爱得太迟我怎想到
    她忍不到那曰子
    盲目地发奋忙忙忙从来未知幸福会掠过
    再也没法说钟意爱一个字
    也需要及时只差一秒
    心声都己变历史为忙未放肆
    见我爱见的双至要抱要吻要怎黱也好
    不要相信一切有下次
    相拥我所爱又花几多秒
    这几秒能够做到又有多少
    未算少足够遗憾忘掉
    多少抱憾多少过路人
    太懂估计却不懂爱锡自身
    人人在发奋想起他朝都兴奋
    但今晚未过你要过也很吸引
    纵不信运你不过是人
    你想很远爱於咫尺却在等
    来曰别操心趁你有能力开心
    世界有太多东西发生不要等到天

    Project 365

    Someone starts the project 365 in the internet, it inspired me. Too many moments in life was missed & regret not to do it. Let us capture down the precious moment happened each day in our life rather than disappear in the river of time.
     
    Time never stop, moment passed. It is near to end of year, one more week is Hari Raya. Time is a creature doesn't wait for anyone, are we living life to the fullest? How many times do we still have?
     
     
    February 27

    人生旅途

    人的一生是旅途,也是一個故事. 每個人都擁有自己的夢, 但是在這個旅途上, 又有多少人放棄了, 不在擁有了夢?
    往往現實總令人低頭, 忙碌的工作, 令我們忽略了身邊的許多人, 許多事...我們冷漠了,關心只覺得是多餘...在人生的旅途里, 我們漸漸的迷失了,失去了方向, 不知為何而活, 生活只像行屍走肉般, 何為理想, 何為未來? 可笑的人總以為時間會為他而停留,不知說過多少遍還有時間, 但當時間悄悄的溜走,一切都只是過去, 追悔又有何用?
    最終只能為自己篇缉藉口, 自欺欺人, 讓自己好過...醒來會是痛...
     
     
     
     
    February 20

    回來了

    已經有幾個月沒有更改我的網誌, 但是現在我已經回來了. 陸陸續續都會更新...
    December 26

    Talking about Zeal 熱忱

     

    Quote

    Zeal 熱忱

    人的一生一定要努力避開一種人,那種時常潑你冷水的人。

     有個媽媽在廚房洗碗,她聽到小孩在後院蹦蹦跳跳玩耍的聲音,

     便對他喊道:「你在幹嘛?」小孩回答:「我要跳到月球上!」

    你猜媽媽怎麼說?她沒有潑冷水,罵他「小孩子不要胡說」

     或「趕快進來洗乾淨」之類的話,而是說:「好,不要忘記回來喔!」

     這個小孩後來成為第一位登陸月球的人,他就是阿姆斯壯。

     「熱忱」就是一種熱情,一種對人的熱情、對事情的熱情、

        對學習的熱情,還有對生命的熱情。

        人的熱忱如果被澆熄了,真是很可惜的事。

    有時候我想去聽音樂會,想邀朋友一起去, 

    他們常常潑我冷水:「算了吧,搞這套!」 我說要去看芭蕾舞,他們更不屑:

     「你真的有這個興緻?那你自己去吧!」

    談到熱忱,我真心覺得不該潑別人冷水, 最好也不要跟愛潑冷水的人在一起,

    因為,擁有熱忱,可以讓你做出很多原本可能做不到的事。

    有次卡內基在美國開年會,有位講員提醒大家,

    旅館房間的門上都掛了一個牌子,上面寫著「請勿打擾」,

    但是有多少人知道,自己天天從家裡到辦公室,脖子上彷彿也掛了這麼一個牌子。

    由於你對一切事物缺乏熱忱,同事不喜歡跟你合作,顧客也覺得最好離你遠一點。

    你也把這塊牌子帶回家,小孩不敢跟你玩,太太也小心避開你。

    你一定想把脖子上的牌子拿掉吧?

    請給世界一個微笑!

    因為,笑容是熱忱表現在外的一個象徵。

                                                                          擷自 破局而出~黑幼龍

    October 12

    Latest version of window.

    Do you want to install the latest version of window?
    October 11

    Frog And Tree

    Why does a frog can jump higher than a tree?
     

    Talking about Can you read it?

    It is interesting and I can read it....yo!!! 

    Quote

    Can you read it?
     I cdnuolt blveiee taht I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg
     The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mnid Aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at
     Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it deosn't mttaer inwaht oredr the ltteers in a
    wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt tihng is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be
     in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed
     it wouthit a porbelm. Tihs is bcuseae the huamn mnid deos not raed ervey
     lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Amzanig huh? yaeh and I
     awlyas thought slpeling was ipmorantt

    Cameron Trip

    As request, the SSS Birthday Celebration Photos moved to high security place, only authorized persons are allowed to view. HAHAHAHA.....
     
    The cameron trip's photos album was created here.
    October 10

    The first blog entry

     
    Hehehe, welcome to the my SPACE...
     
    I just uploaded the photos on the SSS Birthday celebration photos. The chicken whole family is welcomed to drop by and leave comments here.... thank you thank you...
     
    first i have to thanks to ... blah...blah...blah....
     
    to be continue...